Remembering the Children: A Reflection on Indigenous Day of Prayer
Dear Friends,
Sunday, June 19, was Indigenous Day of Prayer. We did pray for our Indigenous sisters and brothers, but we did not make the occasion a focus of our worship.
When I was in ministry in Sault Ste. Marie, ON, at the bottom of our street was the graveyard of the former Shingwauk Indian Residential School. Several times I walked among the graves. There are 120 graves: students and staff. Many mark the death of young children, who died while away from their home reserves -- attending that residential school. These are students who went to a school and never returned home.
For me, it was holy ground. Contemplating children dying far away from the love of their parents, grand-parents, extended family and villages made me profoundly sad. It was very sobering and very disturbing.
Ideally, no child should die. If it does happen, it should not happen away from the comfort and compassion and support of their families. And those families, should have been able to gather, grieve, honour, and bury their children on their home turf. I do not know the causes of death of those children. Yes, there were many childhood illnesses at the time. But we also know that loneliness, deprivation, and isolation from family and culture are among the determinants of health for all of us. I believe you can die of a broken heart.
Periodically, we hear of the possibility of more graves on residential school sites. Sometimes, this is authenticated. Sometimes they are not authenticated. It always raises deep emotions within me: profound anger at the injustice of it all – and a disgust with our colonial mindset about of how to deal with ‘the Indians’ after we successfully acquired their lands by one means or another.
We do well to not consider ourselves superior to the United States on matters of race, racism and systemic injustice. Shame on us, as well.
Our apologies are not the end of the conversation, but the beginning. And we who are now the dominant culture need to hear difficult things, painful stories, and face the nature of systemic racism. Unfortunately, the damage from residential schools will play out for generations to come. We need to own our part, lament our past, lament our present, and work at justice and right relations.
We continue to be on a learning curve on this – as individuals, as newcomers for Canada -- and as the United Church of Canada. We do well to proceed with compassion, openness, humility and grace. We do well to seek justice and right relations.
May God save us from suggesting we have reached our saturation point, or that we know all there is to know on this.
With you on this journey of faith,
Reverend Jim Cairney
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